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How to Support Elderly Parents Moving to Assisted Living

 

Helping aging parents move into a senior living or assisted living environment can be overwhelming, and emotions can easily escalate. Here are 12 tips for managing those emotions during difficult conversations with elderly parents. 

 

 

1. Expect that this will be emotional. 

Expect that this is going to be emotional. Know that it is reasonable that this is emotional and that there will be some fallout. Everyone is entitled to their feelings about this transition. Starting this discussion with the understanding that this will indeed be an emotional conversation will help you get through it.

 

2. Prepare for "the Talk."

Before you have this conversation, take the time to prepare. Here’s how:

  • Do a Dress Rehearsal

It can help to talk this conversation through with someone you trust before you bring it up with your loved one (like a dress rehearsal).

This has a couple of benefits:

  1. It will help you to clarify exactly what you...
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Managing Caregiver Guilt and Shame about Moving Aging Parent to Assisted Living

 

 

 


Have you helped your loved one move to a senior living or assisted living community only to find that in the midst of experiencing relief that your loved one is being cared for and is safe, you also have intense feelings of guilt and shame? 

You're not alone. Many caregivers struggle with guilt and shame after moving older loved ones into a senior living community. Perhaps you feel that you've let your older loved one down, like you're not being a dutiful spouse, daughter, or son. This can lead to emotional distress and discontent. 

To help you navigate the emotionally turbulent waters of caregiver guilt and shame, I've prepared 5 strategies for helping you to move through guilt and shame when helping your older loved one adjust to senior living. 

 

 

5  strategies for moving through guilt and shame when helping your older loved one adjust to senior living

 

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How to Start a Senior Living Discussion with Aging Parents

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There may come a time when you're faced with the conversation of talking with your aging parents about moving into a senior living or assisted living community. Many people dread this conversation.

 

Even simply starting the conversation can bring up all sorts of worry and feelings of guilt and shame.

 

If you're facing this situation, it can help to prepare. In today's episode, I share:

 

  • 6 Strategies for setting yourself up for success with the senior living discussion
  • Examples of how to start the conversation
  • Tips for managing escalation of emotions during this talk
  • How to go about finding senior housing or assisted living communities
  • The importance of taking care of yourself through it all.

 

 

6 Strategies for setting yourself up for success with the senior living discussion

 

1. Don't wait until there is a crisis

Starting these conversations long before your loved one has a medical,...

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Expert Tips for Finding Senior Living with a Mental Health Condition

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When he was in his late 80s, Candy Cohn's father unintentionally stopped taking medication for a long-standing bipolar disorder and experienced a significant mental health crisis requiring hospitalization and intensive treatment. It was following this episode that Candy knew that she needed to help her older parents find a senior living community that would provide more continuity and medication management and offer opportunities for a better quality of life than they were getting at home. But, where to start?

 

I have witnessed many older adults living with significant mental health conditions, like bipolar disorder and schizophrenia, at times struggle to find senior living communities.

 

There are some mental health conditions that are expected in assisted living environments, like depression and anxiety, which often occur with dementia and medical conditions. In fact, one in three residents takes a medication...

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Older Adults, Families, and Senior Care Communities Working Together During COVID-19 (Ep #004)

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We’ve all heard stories of older adults on lock down in their long-term care community. Maybe you’ve even seen the images of family members visiting their loved ones separated by windows or glass.  Like a granddaughter sharing her engagement ring, a son sitting outside talking on the phone with his dad inside his apartment, or a couple presenting their newborn to the grandfather. 

 

 As a Psychologist who specializes with older adults and families, and who provides a lot of education and training to long-term care communities, I have the unique opportunity to see into the inner world of the older adult living in a long-term care community, the concerned family member, and the long-term care community and it's staff as well.

 

In this episode, I explore the common emotional experiences during COVID-19 of older adults, their families, and the senior care communities they live in. And,...

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Talking With Your Partner (When You Don't Agree) About Moving Aging Parents In With You! (Ep#023)

The idea of moving your aging parents in with you is complicated and if you're facing this possibility AND you're in a relationship, this can up the ante of complications.

A few weeks ago, I was featured in the Chicago Tribune in an article that had to do with how to go about making the decision to move your aging parents in with you! In today’s episode, I take a deeper dive into what to do if you and your partner don’t agree on moving your aging parents in with you!

 

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 Today,  I wanted to dive a little deeper and talk about what to do if you and your partner don’t agree on moving your aging parents in with you! 

 

You and your partner were raised differently. You had different parents, different family structures, different family systems, and different roles and values! Your relationship with your aging parents is unique and your partner’s relationship with their aging parents is unique as...

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Why Is Moving Aging Parents In With You So Complicated? (Ep #022)

The idea of moving your aging parents in with you is really complicated.  If you're facing this possibility AND you're in a relationship, this can up the ante of complications.

 

A few weeks ago, I was featured in the Chicago Tribune in an article that had to do with how to go about making the decision to move your aging parents in with you! So, I decided to create a 3-part series on moving aging parents in with you!

 

The transition of moving aging parents in with you is not only practically challenging, it's emotionally REALLY COMPLICATED!! So, I thought it would be helpful to create an episode answering the question, "Why Is Moving Aging Parents in With You So Complicated?"

 

 

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To answer the question, Why Is Moving Aging Parents in With You So Complicated? I have to discuss three complexities that you and your partner will indeed experience as you approach moving aging parents (or in laws) in with you!

 

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Moving Older Parents in With You? These 7 Tips Will Help! (Ep# 021)

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A few weeks ago, I was featured in the Chicago Tribune in an article that had to do with how to go about making the decision to move your aging parents in with you!

 

In today’s episode, I take it a step further and share tips for moving your aging parents (or in-laws) in with you AND I talk about pros and cons to help you really think about this decision!

 

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Today, I wanted to walk you through...

 

7 tips to consider If you’re in the process of moving your aging parents (or in-laws) in with you.

 

1. Take your time with this move/transition and lay a roadmap.

Sometimes, crisis strikes and you have to act fast. But, if you’re considering this move and there is no crisis, really take the time to think it through and be mindful each step of the way. This includes many conversations with your spouse and children. And, even many conversations with your parents (if they’re able). Maybe even...

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How To Find Senior Living Options! A Step By Step Guide (Ep #010)

This month has been all about senior housing!!!
 
THE WHAT!
A couple of weeks ago, I described the different living options for older adults (link here!). I answered the question, "WHAT are the different housing options for older adults, anyway?!"
 
THE WHY!
Last week, I reviewed WHY it's so important to know the different types of living options (read it here!).
 
THE HOW!
In this blog and video, I give you a tutorial on HOW to go about finding living options.
 
I figured, it's one thing to tell you that you need to know the living options, it's quite another to help you figure out how to go about finding them!
 
As we get started, I want you to know that I am not affiliated with any of the resources I am about to list. My goal is to give you options and methods to help ease the process of caring for your aging parents. With this in mind,  I'll share pros and cons for each method I list.
 
For this blog you will really want to watch the...
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Why You Should Know Living Options For Older Adults! (Ep #009)

 

Last week, I listed the various types of living environments for older adults, this week, I wanted to share exactly why you should know living options for your aging parents.

 

Why is knowing the different living options for older adults so important?

  1. You need to know what options are available as your parents' care needs change.
  2. Knowing options will help you to identify the best fit and feel for your parents’ care needs
  3. Being familiar with options before you need them will help to increase your comfort in conversations with your parents about their living options. (The more comfort you have, the healthier the conversation is likelier to be!)

 

Here are are...

 

7 (Additional) Reasons Why It’s Important to Know The Different Living Options For Older Adults!

 

Watch it here, read it below, or do both! 

 

 

7 Reasons Why It’s Important To Know

The Different Living Options For Older Adults!

 

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