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Interview with MJ Grant! (Part 2) MJ Talks About Caring for Her Dad at the End of His LIfe (Ep #027)

 

In this second interview with MJ Grant, MJ shares the most intimate details of an end of life conversation she had with her dad, Manley "Mannie" Grant.

 

In this interview, MJ also shares about how it was discovered that her dad was deaf and the information that his family received from professionals about how to communicate with him (unfortunately the guidance Manley's family received was not affirming of him).

 

MJ also describes her dad's painful illness journey and her role as a caregiver. She opens up about her grief process, shares how she knows that she is burning out as a caregiver, AND her favorite self-care strategies.
 

My hope is that by watching this video, you will have the courage to lean in to difficult end of life conversations when you are faced with them.

 

Grab a box of Kleenex! This conversation will leave you moved and inspired!

 

Read transcript here!

 

About MJ Grant

MJ is a remarkable woman! She is a CODA, that's a...

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How To Talk With Aging Parents About Their Military Service (Ep #025)

 

You may be surprised to hear that about half of today’s Veterans are 65 and older.

If you're caring for an aging Veteran, you may have many questions but not know where to start. Once you do get started, you might not know HOW TO ACTUALLY HAVE a conversation with your loved one about their military service.
 
Maybe you're afraid of saying the wrong thing, pushing too hard, or maybe you're afraid that starting this conversation will open pandora's box of memories.
 
I have been working with older Veterans and their families for more than 10 years, so I thought it would be helpful to share these expert tips on talking with aging parents about their military service with you!

 

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Chances are, if you're caring for an aging parent (65 or older) who served in the military, their service was influenced by WW-II, the Korean War, or the Vietnam War.

 

Offering the opportunity for your aging parents to share about...

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Talking With Your Partner (When You Don't Agree) About Moving Aging Parents In With You! (Ep#023)

The idea of moving your aging parents in with you is complicated and if you're facing this possibility AND you're in a relationship, this can up the ante of complications.

A few weeks ago, I was featured in the Chicago Tribune in an article that had to do with how to go about making the decision to move your aging parents in with you! In today’s episode, I take a deeper dive into what to do if you and your partner don’t agree on moving your aging parents in with you!

 

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 Today,  I wanted to dive a little deeper and talk about what to do if you and your partner don’t agree on moving your aging parents in with you! 

 

You and your partner were raised differently. You had different parents, different family structures, different family systems, and different roles and values! Your relationship with your aging parents is unique and your partner’s relationship with their aging parents is unique as well. So...

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What To Do When Your Aging Parent Refuses to Stop Driving? (Ep #020)

 

 

For the past few weeks,  I’ve been talking with you about safe driving, driving retirement, and talking with aging parents about stopping driving. Well today, I’m gonna share what to do if your aging parent is no longer safe to drive, but is refusing to stop driving. This is incredibly stressful, but my tips in this video will help! 

 

 

From time to time, I run across situations in which older adults flat out refuse to stop driving, even after all of the assessments have been completed, their doctor tells them they are NO LONGER SAFE to drive, and their driver’s license has been revoked. 

 

These situations are really stressful, leaving you in a tight bind. You don’t want to be in conflict with your aging parent (you have dreams of living in a Hallmark aging story), and at the same time, you don’t want your parent putting themselves and others at risk of harm.


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How To Talk With Older Adults About Stopping Driving Without Pushing Them Away! (Ep #019)

 

You’ve heard the expression, all good things must come to an end.  Sometimes this means an end to driving.

It today’s episode, I share...

10 tips for talking with your aging parent about stopping driving… without pushing them away. 

Every day, I get questions from physicians, social workers, nurses, friends, and so many others about older adults and driving. So, I decided to create a series on driving in the hopes that it will help you to navigate a very difficult topic for many families.

This episode will help you tackle this difficult conversation with grace and confidence!

 

 

10 Tips for Talking with Your Aging Parents about Stopping Driving Without Pushing Them Away!



Tip #1 - Prepare for the Talk

Before you have this conversation with your parent, take the time to prepare. And, I mean, really prepare. Here’s how!

1. Ride in the car with them and see how they do (you may be surprised to find that they’re actually a...

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Helping Aging Parents Plan for Driving Retirement! (Ep #016)

 

 You’ve heard about people retiring from work, right? They make a plan, set a date, and spend some time preparing financially, physically, and emotionally for this big transition. Retiring from work is a conversation that, as a society, we're pretty comfortable having. 

 

Now, let me ask you, have you ever heard of a Driving Retirement Plan?!!

 

Well in today’s episode, I will be talking about a driving retirement plan and how you can help your aging parents begin to plan for their driving retirement. 

 

 

Did you know that 78% of family caregivers provide transportation for loved ones?!

I need to repeat this! 78% of family caregivers provide transportation for loved ones!  Transportation is the most requested type of assistance by older adults!!  (National Family Caregiver Alliance and AARP Public Policy Institute, 2015 Report on Caregiving in the U.S.)

 

 

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How to Talk With Your Siblings About your Aging Parents’ Care! (Ep #006)

 

 

Aging parents and sibling relationships are super complicated! Throw caregiving demands on top of family conflict, and what do you get? Resentment! Burnout! And, family members not talking for months or years at a time!

 

But, it doesn’t have to be this way.

 

In this article, I share...

7 Tips For Talking With Your Siblings About Your Aging Parents’ Care.

 

These tips will help to prevent burnout when caring for aging parents and strengthen the relationships between you and your siblings. I mean, who doesn’t want that?

 

Watch it! Read it! Or do both!

 

1. Call For A Sibling Meeting

When you have concerns about your aging parents' needs or care, it can be helpful to call for a meeting between you and your siblings so that everyone can get on the same page.

 

This is really important because you may have your own ideas about how things should be done while your siblings have their own ideas. Not to mention that you may...

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How to Talk with Aging Parents About Their Needs and Wishes (Ep #005)

 

 

How to Talk with Aging Parents About Their Needs and Wishes

 

It’s tough to know how to talk with older parents about difficult topics. Are you gonna say the wrong thing and push your elderly parent away?

 

In this episode (#005) of THE CARING FOR AGING PARENTS SHOW, I share 7 tips for talking with older parents about their needs and wishes related to caregiving and difficult topics.

 

Emotions tend to run high around difficult topics like driving, independent living, health decisions, and managing money. Taking the time to prepare for these conversations will set you up for success.

 

So watch the video now!

 

Here's an overview of the 7 tips I share for talking with your aging parents about their needs and wishes with caregiving and difficult topics!

 

Tip 1: Call for a Parent/Family Meeting

Ask to meet with your parents to talk about their wishes in older adulthood. By calling for a family (or one:one) meeting you and your...

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How To Start the Conversation With Your Aging Parents! (Ep #004)

Many people wait until there's a crisis before having a conversation with their parents about their future. You know, planning for needs and changes in older adulthood.

And this makes sense! Conversations about what life might look like down the road can be painful for both older adults and the people who love them. It's difficult to face the possibility of sickness, frailty, and loss of independence. And, as a result, we ALL tend to avoid these conversations.

Well, avoid no longer!

In this fourth episode of The Caring for Aging Parents Show, I share tips on starting this conversation!

And BONUS! I share 6 conversation starters!

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Here's an overview of  the tips for talking with your aging parents about their future:

1. Don't wait until there is a crisis! Starting these conversations long before your parent has a medical, mental health, or financial crisis is the best approach. Your parents are going to have A LOT of transitions in their lives and some of...

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